These are the times when you might just need to take a step back and not be so hard on yourself. You can only control so many things in your life, most importantly, you and yourself. Your thoughts, actions, emotions, those are all in your very own possession. Like always, even when it seems like it is not, what you choose to do is always left up to you. Whatever choices you make, know that they have their purposes. No choice should be followed with regret, for a life full of choices of regret stunt most chances of happiness. As I've mentioned in the past, things always happen for a reason, some good, some bad, but in the end all things are beneficial. Choices we make should be looked upon as such.
No matter the complication, you should be your own priority. You always hear, "oh, you shouldn't be selfish." Well, selfishness comes down to the matter of understanding it. Like most things, you can use it or you can abuse it.There's the good and there's the bad. When you learn to use it not only to your own benefit but to others as well, then you have the right idea. It also comes down to if you can't take your own well-being and self-care into consideration, how are you supposed to consider the well-being of others in a rational way?
There are times when that question hovers to the surface of your mind as you realize that you do need to in fact take a step back and take some time for yourself. In the end, there is truly no company better than your own. Sometimes a lack of company is the best company. You may just need some time to clear your mind or get some thoughts straight.
Personally, these kind of times with all sorts of complications can be a little hard to handle at first but overtime I've learned that all I need is to take some time to simply breathe. Maybe think some things through, but at the same time keeping in mind not to overthink, or complications can start to pile on top of each other. Sometimes I can't help but be hard on myself, but in the end, that does no good. It's a matter of how you look at things. For me, as soon as I'm able to push myself past the "hard to handle" part, I've learned that it comes down to the balance of optimism and rationalization.
Other times, you may just need some time to yourself to recuperate. It is truly good to be around other people, but sometimes all their thoughts and actions start to clutter your own thoughts and actions. Give yourself some space and know that it is healthy. Give yourself time to gather your own thoughts again and get back into the swing of things.
In the end, no matter what life throws at you, know that it is for a reason and that it will do you good in some way, no matter how strange or unclear it may seem. Know that the care of yourself is important and never let anyone make you think otherwise. Take that time for yourself. It can always be needed.
-The Crunchy Granola Nut
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